Have you ever wondered why two adequate people living together as roommates start fighting over things like groceries or toilet paper? Why can’t they just sit down and talk and straighten things out in a civilized manner? The answer is, they are too different to understand each other, their personalities don’t match and they psychologically can’t stand being that close to one another. Then, the next question that comes to mind is: how did they end living together? Just as simple as this: they didn’t discriminate when they met each other for the first time.
We are taught by society to be fair and unbiased when making our opinion about someone or something. The very word “discrimination” has acquired negative connotations and implies bigotry and injustice. The truth is, discrimination is only bad when abused, otherwise it’s a part of survival mechanism and is necessary when making a choice.
Your ability to discriminate is especially important when choosing a person to share your home with, because home is really an idea, rather than a material thing. The purpose of home is to provide safety and comfort needed to help you rejuvenate, replenish your vital energy and get you ready for the challenges of the outside world. If you don’t have it, then your apartment is just a place where you sleep and keep your belongings and you are, basically, homeless with homeless person’s mentality.
Still, why be extra careful and picky when choosing a roommate if, most of times, you only share common areas and barely see each other? Because, no matter how little time you spend together, you still leave traces of your presence around the apartment, filling your place with energy. They say that our ability to deliver depends directly on our ability to relax and trust me, you won’t be able to relax if the energy feels wrong, be it a New York size flex two or a mansion.
When meeting your prospective roommate for the first time, listen to yourself really carefully. How does the other person makes you feel? Apart from his or her being seemingly a good fit for you? It’s ok to not want someone as a roommate just because of hair color or the smell or even that annoying phrase she or he repeats all the time. Because there is a reason you don’t like it and you feel it, you just can’t explain it to yourself. Your conscience always knows what’s best for you, so, the biggest favor you can do yourself when looking for a roommate is be discriminative and feel good about it. Our thoughts run faster than we can process them that’s why we have intuition and instincts. Never ignore the feeling in your gut, never shush the little voice in your head whispering things that don’t seem to matter, because, believe me they do. Small things matter because they might one day become a cause of a big problem and you will never know what happened.
Just as unforgettable Syrio Forel said: “Look with your eyes. Hear with your ears. Taste with your mouth. Smell with your nose. Feel with your skin. Then comes the thinking, afterward, and in that way knowing the truth”